The "Non-Creepy" Opener Prompt
In Part 2: The Relationship Algorithm, we talked about the anxiety of the “First Move.”
Sending “Hey” is the death of attraction. It puts 100% of the cognitive load on the other person to carry the conversation.
But trying too hard (”Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?”) is even worse.
The sweet spot is Contextual Observation. You want to send a message that proves you actually looked at their profile, without writing a novel.
This prompt turns your AI into a “Wingman” that scans a profile (text or screenshot) and gives you 3 low-pressure, high-curiosity openers.
📋 The “Icebreaker” Prompt
How it works:
Take a screenshot of their profile (bio + photos) OR copy their bio text.
Paste it into ChatGPT (with GPT-4 Vision) or Claude.
Paste the prompt below.
The AI will analyze the details and generate 3 custom openers.
The Prompt:
Act as a Dating Coach specializing in natural conversation.
I want to match with this person. I need an opening message that is engaging, specific to their profile, and low pressure.
The Input:
[PASTE BIO TEXT OR UPLOAD SCREENSHOT HERE]
Your Goal:
Analyze the input for “Conversation Hooks” (e.g., a specific landmark in a photo, a obscure hobby mentioned, a pet, or a specific vibe).
Generate 3 Opening Options:
The “Detective” (Observation): Spot a small detail most people miss (e.g., “Is that a Negroni Sbagliato in the second pic?”).
The “Playful Challenge” (Tease): A lighthearted debate starter based on their opinions (e.g., “I refuse to accept that Die Hard is a Christmas movie.”).
The “This or That” (Low Friction): A simple A/B question related to their interests (e.g., “Crucial question for a Sunday: Bagels or Pancakes?”).
CRITICAL CONSTRAINTS:
Length: Keep it under 20 words. Long texts look desperate.
Tone: Casual and confident. No compliments on physical appearance (e.g., “You’re hot”). It comes off as shallow.
No Emojis: Use zero or maximum one emoji.🧠 Why This Prompt Works
The “Low Investment” Rule: By keeping it under 20 words, you signal status. You aren’t trying too hard.
The “No Physical Compliments” Rule: Attractive people hear “you’re cute” 50 times a day. Commenting on their choices (hobbies, style, opinions) stands out because it validates their personality, not just their genetics.
The Open Loop: “Detective” questions create a psychological “itch” to confirm or deny the observation, increasing reply rates.